I recently read an online article about a very difficult caregiver situation which generated many passionate comments. I refrain from passing judgment, but the comments were quite specific regarding the assumed caregiver’s actions.
The article dealt with a husband who cheated on his wife. After she discovered his infidelity, she was deciding whether or not to leave him. But, then she received a call stating he’d been in a car accident. His injuries were so severe, it was quite possible he would never walk again, never feed nor …
bathe himself, nor hold a job. The emotional toll of betrayal, financial toll of his medical expenses, and round-the-clock care were a heavy burden for his wife.
Although the article didn’t state whether she remained married or filed for divorce, the comments included:
- Honor your marriage vows and stay with him
- He was unfaithful and broke his marriage vows, so you are not obligated to stay
- Divorce him and let his mistress care for him
Old age may not be the reason you become a caregiver. An untimely accident or a serious illness can change the course of someone’s life when least expected. The circumstances of the situation can be a determining factor in what decisions are made. A former spouse may decide to care for the injured or dying person. A step relative may be the one closest to the person requiring care and therefore assumes the caregiver responsibilities.
Along with the decision of who will care for the injured person, many other questions arise such as moving to another residence or retrofitting the current home, paying for medical care, and possibly giving up a job to become a full-time caregiver. What would you do if you needed to care for a loved one? Would you have the financial resources available to aid in the cost of their care? Would you have the emotional and spiritual strength to undertake this responsibility?