writting a family member eulogy

Writing a Loved One’s Eulogy

Many consider writing and delivering a eulogy an honor and a great privilege. But what if you’re one who dreads this task, and compares it to researching and writing a term paper due at the end of the semester. Procrastinating will not eliminate this endeavor, so why not plan accordingly, whether it’s your own eulogy or a friend’s or family member’s.

Not long ago, I visited an elderly woman and we discussed her wishes for her eulogy. I was a bit uncomfortable with this topic, but figured since she mentioned it, I should give her my full attention. I listened and was enthralled as she talked about growing up during the Great Depression and … Read More

Died and nobody noticed

She Died and Nobody Noticed

She died and nobody noticed–can that be true? Every once in a while, I receive an article too bizarre to believe, so when my cousin emailed me the story titled ‘Woman’s auto-payments hid her death for six years’, I knew I had to research this before writing about it. And yes, it’s true – she died and nobody noticed for six years – I found the live broadcast on St. Louis’ FOX2now.

After viewing the telecast, my first thoughts were:

  • Why had neither family nor friends nor her employer reached out to her when she no longer ‘showed up’?
  • With all of our technology including cell phones, laptops, tablets, etc., how is it someone dies and no one notices for SIX years?

I read with interest how this 40-year-old traveled extensively for her job and therefore wasn’t … Read More

death, dying and funerals

There can be humor when talking about death, dying and funerals!

Death, dying and funerals are a big part of Legacy Planning. Our mission at Strategic Hourglass Solutions is to educate others on the importance of starting conversations about not only dying, but also moving, downsizing and disability. Moving can mean different things to different people. Maybe it’s a move to a warmer climate after retiring, or a single story home to accommodate a now required walker or wheelchair. A move could also involve downsizing because with the kids grown and … Read More

funeral eulogy

Taking ownership of our own funeral eulogy!

I recently listened to a woman talking about the importance of taking ownership of our own funeral eulogy. She shared a story of attending her neighbor’s funeral and listening to the eulogy which included what a great knitter her neighbor was. Because her neighbor had accomplished so many other things and was a pillar in her community, the woman listening felt knitting was possibly the last thing her neighbor would have wanted remembered about her life and legacy.

This story resonated deeply with me. I still recall my disappointment in my 32-year-old nephew’s … Read More

Talking about death

Why is it so hard talking about death?

When I bring up talking about death in my speaking engagements there’s always one or two people who swear they are not going to ever die, so there’s no need to have a conversation about it. This makes me smile and sad all at the same time. I smile because it brings back memories of my own father who passed away 9 years ago and was one of those ‘I’m going to live forever’ guys. Even when he was in the hospital during those final days before losing consciousness, he would talk about what he was going to do when he got back home. It makes me sad because … Read More